I think it’s safe to say that the three most beautiful words used to express an emotion in the English language are “I love you.” People are driven to shout these words from mountain tops, write them in the sky, and tie a ring to them on bended knee. They can make hearts melt, tears slide, and angels sing in the distance. For some people, these three words can slip off the tongue like melted butter, but for others, they seem to stick to the roof of your mouth like peanut butter and just sit on the edge of your lip….simply waiting and pondering whether they’ll be allowed out or not.
When it comes to relationships, there seems to be certain marking points: The 3rd date, the “doing the dirty”, the meeting the parents, the decision not to see other people, and of course the part where you say “I love you.” Suddenly those beautiful words seem to become more of an “accomplishment” than an expression. Sometimes, you just can’t seem to PUT IT OUT THERE. But why? If love is defined as a strong positive emotion of regard and affection, than why is it so hard to admit to?
To say that we “love chocolate”, “love shopping”, “love music”, etc. is easy to admit to, and yet, when we enter into a relationship in which our heart is involved with another human being, we can’t seem to pry these words off our tongue to save our life. If you are seeing someone who makes you blush when they flirt with you, gives you butterflies in your belly, puts little stars in your eyes just by looking at them, and gives you an orgasm that could cause a seizure, um, what’s not to love? Saying “I love you” should not have to be so damn difficult. You’re not proposing here, you’re simply stating that you acknowledge a feeling of happiness and affection for the person you’re with.
I think back to how many times I was in a relationship where I wanted to say those three little words, but didn’t out of fear. Why should I say them first? Why isn’t he saying them? Doesn’t he love me? What is he scared of? Will this be the night when he says it? Maybe he’ll say it in Vegas. He didn’t. Now what? Should I just end it? This will never amount to anything. If he doesn’t say it this weekend, than I’m done. He didn’t. Should I stay? UGH. The ridiculousness of those damn words could drive a person crazy. What the hell does it matter who says it and when?! If you’re seeing each other exclusively, spend every weekend together, and feel like their presence brings out the best in you, than guess what? Whether you want to admit it or not, you love them. It’s ok to admit to love.
For every person that I have ever said I love you to, they made an impact on my heart and I am grateful for that, however short lived or spontaneous our time was together. Love is never really lost and it’s never forgotten. Love creates memories and makes you grow into a stronger person. Love doesn’t suck, and it’s really not that difficult to feel either. We all know that love makes the world go round. Saying I love you does not commit you to anything; it does not make you any more responsible, or any more vulnerable to heartache.
Don’t overthink it so much, because honestly? You have nothing to lose by saying I love you and it doesn’t magnetically bond you to someone for all eternity just because you warm their heart with three little words every now and then. If all else fails you’re supposed to set it free anyways because if it comes back to you it’s yours, and if it doesn’t it was never meant to be.
Case closed. Now go tell someone you love them :)
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