~Love Actually~

Love Actually....

It’s the movie of all movies. From the moment it starts, ten different baits are cast at my heart, hooked at all angles and reeled in. My soul is taken to a magical land of emotion for over an hour and a half then returned to my fluttering chest. Swollen, burning and beaming with sensations that only a good film can create. Every time I watch it I pick up on something new and the lessons so eloquently imbedded in this motion picture are endless. It’s like some intense educational course that rides you along a roller coaster of love, wisdom, and the ever-changing adventures of the heart.

Here is my take on the top TEN lessons on love brought to you by the glorious film “Love Actually”

1.) Love speaks no language, knows no age, and has no agenda. It has no comprehension of inconvenience, no sense of time and no control, yet if you let it, it can still conquer all.

2.) There may be more than one person in the world for you but nobody in the world will be able to tell you that when you are deep in the throes of love. If someone has it bad for a particular person they get tunnel vision and there is nothing you can do to change their mind.

3.) It’s true. Women love musicians. If you don’t have looks on your side I suggest you pick up a guitar and give it your all. Even the ugliest of musicians can find love! Look at Mick Jagger and Steven Tyler.

4.) If you go to a bar in Wisconsin it’s pretty easy to get laid, especially if you have an accent and are willing to shell out a few bucks to buy her drinks. Or just hit up the Midwest in general. Preferably  the small towns, those girls like to party and are drawn to guys that “aren’t from around here.” It’s like a moth to a flame.

5.) Music touches the soul. Joni Mitchell writes from down deep and even though she claims to not know love at all I think she has a pretty good grasp at the strings of it. Evidence found in lyrics such as:
“Tears and fears and feeling proud to say "i love you" right out loud,
Dreams and schemes and circus crowds, i've looked at life that way.
But now old friends are acting strange, they shake their heads, they say
I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day.
I've looked at life from both sides now,
From win and lose, and still somehow
It's life's illusions i recall.
I really don't know life at all.”

6.) You can’t help the ones you love. Whether it be your best friend’s wife, your much older and very married boss, or a brown eyed beauty that doesn’t speak a lick of English. It’s really worth saying again: You can’t help the ones you love. Sometimes it feels wrong and sometimes it feels right but either way sometimes it’s out of your hands. It may work in your favor or it may teach you a lesson. Do with it what you may but be aware that love can be a gamble. Know when to held ‘em and know when to fold ‘em.

7.) Love is everywhere. You can’t escape it. Even if your heart feels like it has been ripped out of your chest by a dagger and left to wither away slowly, aching and swollen and totally disarranged. I assure you love is waiting on the side lines. You may lose a spouse. Your wife may be sleeping with your brother. Your husband has a wandering eye. These things happen every day but I assure you LOVE will still be there, in a new form just around the corner. It waits patiently. You cannot hide from it, love will find you.

8.) The purchasing of jewelry is reserved for your significant other. Women always appreciate a nice piece of jewelry and don’t think otherwise. Nothing says I Love You more than diamonds.

9.) If you can’t say it show it. When you have no voice whether you’re too shy or just plain scared remember there is always the written word. Even if their ears can’t hear your voice, their heart can still be thrilled by the message. Remember that your eyes are the window to your soul, use them to your benefit!

10.) If you want the rainbow you have to put up with the rain. What could be worse than the total agony of being in love? The unknown. The risk. The rejection. The happily ever after dream that taunts you in your sleep. Loving someone who doesn’t love you back? Ugh, it can be brutal. But love, TRUE love is worth it in the end. It’s worth the fight. It’s worth the tears. It’s worth the risk of knowing you could lose it. Believe and open your eyes....

because love actually IS all around you. And love actually IS worth it all.